Around half of us in the UK don’t have a will, and I was one of them until this week. It’s no surprise that people put off making a will, it involves grim conversations about your death and awkward ones about which of your family members you like enough to leave some money to versus others. Not to mention the tricky conundrum of who you want your kids (or pets) to live with if you die.

My discussions around wills this week involved the comedic phrase of ‘double death scenario’ and a weighing up of which of mine and my husband’s siblings would most like to live with our sassy two-year-old should we peg it. All in all, not a joyous task.

WHY WRITING A WILL IS SO IMPORTANT

I’m glad that I’ve ticked it off the mental to-do list. It’s been lurking on that list for about seven or eight years and took another step up in urgency when I had a child two years ago. But still I put it off and prioritised something else in my seemingly endless list of admin.

The perfect solution arrived this month to spur me on: Make a Will Month. This is a scheme run by Will Aid where solicitors donate their time in November to make wills for people, and in return those people donate money to a charity, Will Aid. There is a suggested donation of £100 for a single will and £180 for a pair or basic mirror wills – but you can contribute more if you want to (or think your case might be trickier).

In the absence of any huge wealth or complicated family structures I plumped for basic mirror wills for my husband and I. And, like most things you’ve been putting off for years, it was far more painless and quicker than I imagined it would be.

WHERE TO START

The first step was to find a solicitor on the website who had signed up to the scheme – and they don’t necessarily need to be local, mine was 200 miles away in Doncaster. After setting up the call (the biggest hassle of which was coordinating my husband and my calendars to find a time when we were available and child-free) we were on track.

The night before my husband and I decided that we should probably think about some of the big decisions: like who would have our daughter and who we wanted to be executors. A top tip would be not to discuss this immediately before going to bed, like us. It leads to some pretty depressing dreams.

But the call led us through all the decisions we needed to make, from whether we wanted to leave any gifts to friends to what we wanted to do with our personal chattels (wills are very old school and use some weird language).

I had debated about whether to get one of those DIY will kits and go it alone – I take a DIY approach to all other areas of my life, whether it’s house repairs or my investments, so why not this. But I’m genuinely pleased I didn’t.

WHY IT COULD BE A MISTAKE TO DO IT YOURSELF

First, because I fear that a DIY will kit would have gathered dust and never been filled in. But second, our solicitor raised some very useful points that I wouldn’t have thought of alone. Such as what age we wanted our child to inherit our estate should that dreaded double death scenario happen, or what we wanted to do with our money if all three of us died (admittedly not the cheeriest point, but a useful one).

She also suggested we have a letter of wishes alongside the will, which lays out things like preferences for our funeral (turns out my husband has some pretty clear ideas) and items we want to leave to friends or family. The benefit of these not being in the will is that it’s easier to change a letter of wishes should our circumstances (or song choices for the funeral) change.

After verbally agreeing everything, our wills are now winging their way to us in the post, when we’ll need to sign them and return them. At that point it is job done, unless something dramatically changes in our lives. And it feels like a win-win: we’ve got a will cheaper than we would have paid, some charities have got some money they wouldn’t have otherwise got, and I’ve finally ticked the task off my to-do list. Now onto the next one.

You can book a solicitor through Will Aid by following this link.

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